This episode of the Healthy Family Project podcast is all about how parents can prepare their children for adulthood. We’re joined by New York Times bestselling author, Julie Lythcott-Haims, for an honest conversation about how our parenting style can inspire independence and confidence. Julie shares tips for parents to help them empower their children to develop agency and a 4-step process to transition our kids from depending on us for tasks to doing it themselves.

To say that parenting is hard would be the understatement of the year. Parenting is a delicate balance of keeping your children safe, providing their essential needs, helping them navigate transitional periods, and providing them the tools to help them blossom into adulthood. Raising an adult that is ready to navigate the real world can be a challenging task, but since all of us parents face it, we are excited to be sharing these helpful parenting tips.

How To Raise An Adult Book

Several years ago, Julie observed the long-term effects of overparenting while working at a university. This inspired her to publish her best-selling book, How to Raise an Adult. During our conversation, we got lots of great insights for Julie to help us break those parenting habits that make children become overdependent on us and less likely to develop anxiety.

Podcast on how to raise an adult

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What We Cover:

Want to skip straight to a hot topic? See timestamps below. But of course, we recommend listening all the way through to get all the great tips and tricks!

  • 2:36 Welcome, Julie!
  • 3:52 What was your inspiration for writing How to Raise an Adult?
  • 6:52 Advice for parents who want to avoid being helicopter parents
  • 12:20 4 Step Method to Getting Kids to do things for themselves
  • 15:26 Tips to help parents let go during transitional phases
  • 22:40 Opportunities for teaching moments
  • 25:30 Advice for the college arm race
  • 30:43 Relationship between overparenting and the negative impact on confidence
  • 34:03 Inspiration for Julie’s new book
  • 42:29 What does a healthy family mean to you?

About Our Guest, Julie Lythcott-Haims

Julie Lythcott-Haims is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult and Real American. She holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard Law School, and an MFA from California College of the Arts. She resides in the Bay Area with her partner, their two itinerant young adults, and her mother.

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